Thursday, July 17, 2008

I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids.

I just finished reading the book "I was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids", by Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile (Amazon Link). The title just really appealed to me (as well as the pink cupcake on the cover), as I definitely had all sorts of ideas of the kind of Mom I would be before I actually had my daughter, some of which turn out to be correct, but others have turned out to be totally unrealistic! I also worry a lot about the endless struggle to be both a good mother and do well at my job. As seems to be typical I often feel like I'm doing a sub-standard job in both areas - leading to a significant amount of stress. This book discusses all of those issues and calls for an end to the "Mommy Wars" as well as suggesting that we're all being a bit too hard on ourselves. I liked those parts a lot. However what I found totally unhelpful were the lists of things they think I am worrying about but shouldn't be. I found myself worrying that I'm not worrying about the things they say I shouldn't be worrying about! How stupid is that!


Julie R said...

This sounds like a book I need to read. I can really relate to what you said about the endless struggle to be a good mother and do well at my job. I've heard it gets better when kids start school, but I'm not convinced.

ScienceMama said...

I'll definitely start reading this one. I'll let you know what I think when I finish it 18 years from now.... :)